When seeking inspiration for your own accomplishments and life purpose, the most important thing to do is find someone you want to emulate. But never forget that you are your own person.

Everybody has a different idea about what makes a “good” role model, so choose one who speaks to you and your unique purpose in life. When you’re working toward your dreams, have someone in mind whom you admire, but understand that your competition is not against that person. You don’t want to focus on being better than that person. You want to be a better version of yourself than you were yesterday, and you want to be a better version of yourself tomorrow than you were today. The competition is against you, not somebody else.

People get caught up in that. For example, in my field, some life coaches believe that if they’re not like Tony Robbins, they can’t be considered professionally successful. I admire Tony Robbins, and I want to be like him.

However, I understand that at the end of the day, I want to be me, just a little better with every day. Whether the end product makes me more famous than him or less famous than him, I don’t care. I have him as a role model because of his level of professionalism, his ever-expanding reach, and his impressive rise to success. At the same time, I know that my skills and gifts are different than his, and I don’t want to lose that.

Some people get frustrated because they compare themselves too harshly to others doing what they want to do. That can definitely sidetrack you and put you down. When you look in the mirror at night, ask “Did I do what I was supposed to do today to complete my goals? Was I true to myself?”

Use a person as a role model because he motivates you and keeps you focused, but never forget your inherent self.

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